We’ve had a couple threads lately about the Jews, that have prompted a lot of comments voicing bitter complaints about them (and about those who don’t complain about them!). I have been forcibly struck by an analogy, that I cannot gainsay, between those complaints about the mean Jews who are not very nice to us poor goyim and the complaints of the MRM about the mean women who are not very nice to us men. They aren’t fair!
I recently replied to a commenter complaining about how mean and unfair women are these days that he had four choices (here I use “strong” instead of “lethal” as I did there):
1. Be weak and vicious (gamer).
2. Be weak and virtuous (beta loser).
3. Be strong and vicious (alpha cad).
4. Be strong and virtuous (True Knight).
It strikes me that the same goes for relations with Jews, or for that matter with any challenge we apprehend in life. No matter what you’re worried about, you have only these four choices [by “you” I mean people in general – especially men - indeed, especially me!]. Which of these sorts of man, then, do you want to be? Do you want to spend your days worrying about how the Jews or women or liberals or bankers are supposedly keeping you down, and fashing yourself about conspiracy theories, or do you want to just go ahead and live heroically into the new age in which you, and those whom you care about, triumph in the service of the Good, or – gloriously – die trying? Do you want to spend your days feeling threatened and victimized and resentful, or do you want to just live your Quest, live a good and virtuous life, come hell or high water, without apology or complaint?
What are you about? Are you about being oppressed by women or Jews or whatever, or are you about prevailing in battle, or else, mayhap, dying in battle? If the former, please tell me how, in finding yourself, lo and behold, oppressed by women or Jews or Muslims or liberals, you are not getting exactly what you set yourself up for?
Analyse your adversaries, to be sure; understand them. But don’t complain about them. Don’t resent them, for heaven’s sake. Resenting them is simply inapposite. They are after all only doing what comes naturally, indeed just what any self-respecting, sensible person very much ought to be doing: trying their best to win at the game, in service of their own vision of the Good. Just like you. The Blackfeet didn’t resent the Cheyenne, or vice versa. Indeed, they admired each other. Each tribe made the other great.
Is your adversary really smart, really talented? Well; shall you live a courageous and virtuous life, regardless of who might be stronger or more intelligent or talented than you, or shall you let the thought that there are millions of men who are somehow or other better than you defeat you before you even get started? Is the system rigged against you? Well; shall you just give up, then? Or, recognizing that the world is not fair and that you would in any case have faced stiff challenges, shall you forge ahead? If the latter, what earthly good are complaints? Do you complain about the weather? All right: then why should you complain about history, and where it has landed you?
You know – you know perfectly well – that it’s not the Jews that are keeping you down, or feminists, or whatever. It’s mostly, firstly, just life and its accidents, the hand you’ve been dealt; and secondly, how you’ve played it. You can’t control the hand you are dealt. No one can. The only thing you can control is how you play. So, stop worrying about the hand you’ve been dealt, and live into Glory.
Are you feeling intimidated by the Jews or the Muslims or the liberals or the women? Why the hell waste your life’s blood on that? Why focus your emotional energy on stuff you can’t control, can’t do anything about, when the only thing that can really help you is to work harder, be better yourself? Feel outclassed by someone? Feeling envious and resentful? Hit the books, hit the gym, get on the phone, get to work, get to confession and Mass. The only way to feel really good is to be really good. So be really good, and you will find, magically, that you *just don’t care* about the Jews or the feminists or whatever, anymore, because you have left all that behind and are about something larger, something new and different altogether; something noble, and good.
If you find yourself focusing on the Jews or the Muslims or the bankers or the feminists or the cafeteria Catholics or whatever, you are focusing on the dead past, and allowing it to control your present moment and determine and constrain your notions of what it is possible for you to achieve. Never mind the past; never mind those others. Ask yourself only this: what do you want to achieve? Then, what are the concrete obstacles that stand in your way? No, not the society-wide stuff; you can’t do anything about that. What, are you going to get rid of the UN, or change the way Hollywood works? Forget that stuff. I mean the concrete, nearby, small stuff that you can actually do something about. That’s what you should focus on. Nothing else is worth worrying about; everything else that you worry about is just an excuse for not having gotten started. It’s not about the Jews, or women, or your parents, or that nasty man who abused you when you were 13, or the fact that you got bad grades. It’s about right now, and what you will now do. Don’t let the dead past kill this moment. Leave the dead to bury the dead. We have no time for modernity. Let it be forgotten, at least in your own life – you know, the one you have some power to influence.
Having trouble forgetting the past, shaking off its dull influence? Try going to confession.
If you are a True Knight, then you aim in the final analysis at Heaven. You aim at the highest thing. In so doing, you simply define yourself as more noble than anyone who aims at less. That’s all. And, if you keep at your Quest, it will more and more form you to be just that. As noble, you will find yourself obliged to act nobly toward those who aim at less. Indeed, you’ll find that you want to. This is the true meaning of noblesse oblige. It is also the true meaning of Christian charity. The two precepts are not different. Chivalry just is loving your enemy.